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Book Summary: You Coach You Book by Helen Tupper, Sarah Ellis

Updated: Feb 21, 2022


Toby's Rating: 8/10 | Recommended For: Everyone | Category: Coaching

3 Big Ideas from "You Coach You" by Helen Tupper, Sarah Ellis💡

The big ideas in this "You Coach You" book summary are:

  1. You don't need to hire an expensive career coach to improve. The mission of "You Coach You" book is to democratize coaching. sharing ideas, tools and techniques that will help you learn to coach yourself.

  2. The core skills of coaching are listening, asking questions and being self-aware. When you develop these skills not only can you coach yourself, but you'll be better equipped to help others.

  3. Coaching enables you to tackle the big challenges you might face in your career: burnout, confidence, relationships, purpose and progression. Using self-coaching techniques shared in You Coach You will help you gain clarity.

2 Best Quotes from You Coach You Book 💬

You Coach You Summary

"You Coach You" book summary quotes:

Coaching isn’t therapy, it’s product development with you as the product.

Coaching is:

The skill of asking yourself questions to improve self-awareness and prompt positive action.

Tobys Top Takeaway

Coaching is a confusing word. Many people associate it with "fixing people" and telling people what to do. The dictionary doesn't help with this. You Coach You by Helen Tupper and Sarah Ellis does a great job at democratizing coaching. Simple and practical, it gives you the tools of coaching so that you can find a breakthrough.

I'd like to highlight in this "You Coach You" summary the "Ask the Expert" sections. At the end of each chapter, there is a story. For example, Elizabeth Uviebinené, author of Slay in Your Lane, shares her perspective on building your self-belief. These real examples bring the power of coaching to life.

The "You Coach You" Book follows a similar format to The Coaches Casebook. One of my top coaching books. Exploring the traps and challenges we all face in our personal and professional lives.

Whilst writing this You Coach You summary I reflected upon the central premise of the "You Coach You" book. Whilst I agree, there is great value in self-coaching it has limitations. It's easy to get stuck in thinking patterns that make problems worse. Confirming your own biases and not being aware of your blind spots. I've also heard countless times "speaking my thoughts out loud to someone has helped make things clearer". This is where a skilled coach brings huge value. Listening deeply to what is said and what isn't. Asking provocative questions to bring awareness to blind spots. Encouraging you to build upon your strengths.

There is no right or wrong answer. My experience is that to reach your potential requires a mixture of approaches. Self-coaching, professional coaching, mentors, friends and even foes.

The final thing I'd like to share in this You Coach You summary is gratitude. The You Coach You Book will bring the power of coaching to more people. This can only help make the world a better place.

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Big Ideas Expanded 💡

The core skills of coaching are: Listening, Asking Questions, Self-Awareness.

You Coach You shares that by mastering these skills you can find your breakthrough.

Here are more resources to help you develop these core coaching skills.

How To Ask Powerful Questions

How To Build a Listening Habit

How To Build Self-Awareness


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