Toby Sinclair

Charles Duhigg · printable PDF

Supercommunicators cheat sheet

Duhigg's book is strongest on why conversations go wrong. This one-pager is the bit I take into the room: which conversation is this, and am I in the same one as everyone else?

Notes by Toby Sinclair. Pair with the full Supercommunicators summary.

What's on the sheet

  1. 01 Name the conversation typeAsk which layer is live: practical (what's this about?), emotional (how do we feel?), or social (who are we?).
  2. 02 Helped, hugged, or heardMatch the want before you offer a plan.
  3. 03 Match before you moveSynchronise: same pace, same layer, then the next step.
  4. 04 Ask for feelings, not factsQuestions about how they feel about their work beat questions about the CV.
  5. 05 Thirty-second prepJot down a few topics you would like to discuss before you start. The list often never comes up. The conversation still goes better.
  6. 06 Prove you are listeningShow you heard their needs, goals, beliefs, and emotions — then share yours.

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